Love, The Tie That Binds…


The love that a son has for his father is truly special and the same is true of the love that a father has  for his son…The tie that binds.  Sons look to their father’s for guidance and training as they develop and mature into young men.  To give you an example, last week I was channel surfacing and I stopped at one of the Reality Shows, “Love and Hip Hop”. The scene was Stevie J conversing with is son who was feeling some kind of way about the lack of presence his dad had in his life when he was growing up.  Although he now understands that his father’s occupation supported him and his sisters and as a result he was on the road quite often.  Now with that said Stevie’s son shared with him that he was challenged with learning how to do many things on his own, for example, learning to shave and other things a young man looks to his dad  for guidance in.

I have very dear friend who has a tween that has never had a relationship with his dad.  His mother has struggled over the years to fill the void but you and I both know that’s not entirely possible, given the needs of a young man who longs for his father.  Now fast forward to today this young man, a tween, is still searching for answers and continues to look to his mother to provide him with answers to his questions,”Why doesn’t my dad want to see me”.  “why doesn’t he love me”?  This young man has an overwhelming void in his life.   A void that might possibly require clinical support so this young man doesn’t travel a path that leads to self destruction.  Listening to my friend share this with me was heart wrenching and all I could say to myself was “Fathers please do not neglect your sons, they are crying out for you LOVE“.


“Happy Father’s Day” 


A Delicious Meal in Under an Hour

Do you respect your body? Please say yes because your body is your earthly temple. The foods that go into your body should be chosen with thoughtfulness.  The same way you make a decision about the person you want to spend your life with is essentially the way one should decide what foods to put in their temple.  Too much fat can clog up your arteries, an abundance of salt may elevate your blood pressure and the sweetness of sugar may send your blood glucose level into over drive.  Keeping these things in mind I have suggested a quick love fat, low sugar high protein meal that you can prepare in under an hour for your loved one, significant other, etc. 

Lemon Herb Red Snapper
Baked Sweet Potato
Steamed Asparagus 
Zucchini with Red Peppers

                   “Wine choice – Pinot Noir or Merlot, great selections from California”



Lemon Herb Red Snapper with Sautéed Zucchini & Red Peppers

Lemon Herb Red Snapper

Cooking spray
4 (6-ounce) red snapper  fillets
2 lemons,  1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon paprika
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
2 tablespoons butter, softened
1 1/2 teaspoons chopped fresh herbs (such as rosemary, thyme, basil, or parsley)
Fresh herb sprigs (optional). 4 Servings

Preheat oven to 425°

Cut 1 lemon into 8 slices. Place slices, in pairs, on a rimmed baking sheet coated with cooking spray. Grate remaining lemon to get 1 teaspoon lemon rind; set aside. Reserve lemon for another use.
Place 1 fillet on top of each pair of lemon slices. Combine salt, paprika, and pepper; sprinkle evenly over fish. Bake at 425° for 13 minutes or until fish flakes easily when tested with a fork or until desired degree of doneness.
While fish bakes, combine reserved lemon rind, butter, and herbs in a small bowl.
Place fish and lemon slices on individual serving plates; top each fillet with herbed butter, spreading to melt, if desired. Garnish with herb sprigs, if desired.

calories 223
calories format 32 %
fat 8 g
sat fat 4.1 g
mono at 1.9 g
poly fat 1 g
protein 34 g
carbohydrate 2.9 g
fiber 0.9 g
cholesterol 75 mg
sodium 259 mg

Baked Sweet Potato


Baked Sweet Potato

Wash 4 medium sweet potatoes, and remove any blemishes or dark spots; wrap each potato in aluminum foil. Bake, folded side of foil up, for 1 to 1 hour or until a fork easily presses into the center. If desired, serve with butter, pepper, and salt.  4 Servings  – Preheat oven 400° ____________________________________________________________________________________________



Sautéed  Asparagus

1 bunch of asparagus 
3 cloves garlic, chopped
 1 quarter stick of butter

Melt the butter in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add the garlic and asparagus spears; cover and cook for 10 minutes, stirring occasionally, or until asparagus is tender. If you like your asparagus well done, reduce heat and cook an additional 10 minute. 

4 servings

Fat: 8.8 g
Carbs: 5.2g
Protein: 2.7 g
Cholesterol: 23 mg
Sodium: 64 mg



Zucchini with Red Peppers

Zucchini with Red Peppers

4 medium zucchini
2 garlic cloves
1 (10 ounce) jar roasted red peppers packed in oil
1 lemon, juice of
1tsp. sea salt to taste or lemon juice
1tsp. ground black pepper

Zucchini halved lengthwise and cut into half-moons
Slice the red peppers into strips.
Pour the oil from the roasted red peppers into a skillet and heat over med-high heat.
Add zucchini and sauté until tender, about 4 minutes.
Add lemon juice and red pepper strips and sauté 1-2 more minutes. 4 servings

Calories 24.8
Calories from Fat 1 
Total Fat 0.2 g
Cholesterol 0 mg
Sodium 12 mg
Total Carbohydrate 6 g
Fiber 1.4 g
Sugars 2.6 g
Protein 1.5 g 

Always member food should be interesting, tasteful and most of all enjoyable!

Love Ya…Chris



Quick Meals for the Summer Heat…

garden stuffed potatoes


2 large Russet baking potatoes
1 to 2 green onions, the white and part of the green, finely chopped
1/4 cup nonfat or light sour cream
1 tablespoon whipped butter or less-fat margarine
1/2 teaspoon parsley flakes
1/2 teaspoon Italian herb blend
1/2 cup reduced-fat, shredded sharp cheddar cheese
3 tablespoons shredded Parmesan cheese
1 teaspoon minced garlic, or 1/4 teaspoon garlic powder
1 cup broccoli florets, cooked, chopped
black pepper, to taste


 1. Microwave or oven-bake potatoes until tender (don’t forgot to stab with a fork a few times before cooking). Meanwhile, in a medium-sized bowl, mix together the remaining ingredients (except broccoli) with a fork.

 2. Tearfully cut potatoes in half and scoop out the center, leaving about 1/2 inch of potato around the skin. Add the scooped-out potato and the broccoli pieces to the mixture in the bowl. Mix with fork, then spoon into potato halves.

 3. Microwave each potato half on HIGH for about 1 minute or broil all the potato halves until lightly brown on top.


Makes: 4 servings
Calories – 205
Protein – 10 g
Carbohydrates – 32 g
Dietary fiber – 4 g
Fat – 5 g
Saturated fat – 3 g
Cholesterol – 15 mg
Sodium – 150 mg
Calories from Fat – 21%




  1.  3⁄4 cup white cooking wine
  2.   2 tbsp olive oil
  3. 1 tbsp grated fresh ginger
  4. 2 minced garlic cloves
  5. 8 minced green onions, divided
  6. 1 lb (four 4-oz) chicken breasts, boneless, skinned
  7. 1⁄2 cup water
  8. 3⁄4 cup low-sodium chicken broth


Prep Time: 35 min, Total time: 55 min
1. In a large bowl combine the wine, olive oil, ginger, garlic, and half the green onions.

2. Add chicken breasts and marinate for 30 minutes, covered in the refrigerator. Turn occasionally.

3. Grill or broil chicken 5 to 10 minutes on each side until browned on the outside and cooked in the center.

4. Top chicken with remaining onions.

Makes 4 servings
Amount Per Serving:
Calories 453
Total Fat – 12g 18%
Saturated Fat – 2g 10%
Trans Fat – 0g
Cholesterol  – 66mg 22%
Sodium – 185mg 8%
Total Carbohydrates – 48g 16%
Dietary Fiber – 4g 16%
Sugars  – 3g
Protein – 36g
Calcium – 37mg 4%




SMART Love…I have often wondered, if two people take the time to ask themselves some specific questistandbehindyou_posterimg copyions about the person they are interested in building a relationship with, would the answers make them think twice about pursuing something on a higher level  with that individual. I would like to share an acronym that I created as a guide to help men and women understand if the person they are interacting with is truly someone they  can spend the rest of their life with; I mean really stay together until one or the other ceases to exist.

Sensible, is the person reasonable, do they use good judgement when making  decisions.

Marginalize, does he or she make you feel important?  Are your suggestions and ideas respected as credible? 

Amicable, is he or she non-confrontational? Do they project a harmonious vibe?

Realistic, does he or she make decisions based on the way things are, and not the way they want things to be?  Are they somewhat practical?

Trustworthy, would you trust this person with your life?

No, you are not looking for a business partner, but you are trying to get a sense of whether this person is someone that you can communicate with, someone that will be a good listener, someone that has your back, someone that has the same or similar values as you, someone that you are comfortable with.  I could go on and on but I won’t. I am simply positioning you for a look ahead. No one is perfect but why not invest some time in understanding the theme of the “picture” while you  admire the “frame”

I am living and loving life…Chris

Know Your Gifts…



Brenda Wilson

Have you ever had an Ah Ha moment and wondered why you waited so long to listen to that inner voice – the voice in your head – God’s whisper to you? Well, I had one of those moments recently and it took me aback, so much so that I had to pray for forgiveness because I got caught up in day-to-day life and forgot who’s really in control.

Here’s what happened! My valet key became separated from my regular car key and I could not find it anywhere. Thankfully I made only 2 stops that day so the key had to be in my car, in my purse, on the ground in the parking lot, at work, or lost forever in the parking lot at Publix. Of course, the first place I looked was in my purse. I tore my purse and computer tote apart but still no key. Then I my job called; we have gated parking so there was a good possibility that someone found it and turned it in. However, yet again I came up without the key.

Each day since I “lost” my valet car key, I would get these taps on the shoulder, voices in my head telling me to check at Publix. I ignored those whispers for 3 days. Then finally when returning home, I got a “strong whisper” to stop at Publix and ask. So rather than rushing home to continue working and stressing over unachievable deadlines, I pulled up to the curb and went in.

There was no one at the desk so I waited. Tempted to walk away, again feeling stressed that I was wasting time and could be working instead, I waited for almost 3 minutes. Finally, the front counter person came up looking quite flushed. She said she was not feeling well and apologized for my wait. Instinctively, I asked if I could help her or get someone on the staff at Publix to assist her. She insisted that she would be fine and that’s just what we do sometimes…press on even when things get tough.gifts_mainsml

Well…you could have knocked me over with a feather with the next conversation. Seeing that she would not let me assist her, I asked had anyone turned in a valet key. Not only did she say yes, but also told me the model of my vehicle before I could even get my words out to ask. She went on to say that the patrons at our local Publix often turn in lost items such as jewelry, debit cards, etc.

Well can I tell you that I broke out in tears at God’s almighty favor over me that day. I had already called the dealer and learned that a replacement key would cost almost $200 which I was not prepared to spend. Yet, I know I really needed that valet key because that was the only 2nd key to my vehicle that I had. So finding out that I could have save myself a ton of worry had I just listened to the whispers in my head, I was overwhelmed with the blessing that God bestows over me in big and small ways.

To top off my week, my son wrote his 1st “devotional” for school. Yes he attends a Christian school and this was homework. But it warmed my heart that he picked a verse and told a simple story around the verse revealing that no matter what we do, we should always do it to glorify God. Whew!

God did his thing this week and he wasn’t done with me. Before the end of my work week, I got the sweetest voice mail, email, and phone call from a lady that I met one time thanking me for my support and words of encouragement and how much my words had helped her get over a major hurdle in her life. I had no idea what I said that had impacted her life so deeply. So to hear how profoundly my words had fed into her spirit, went further to help me understand and appreciate how truly blessed I am and how God favors me on a daily basis.

So 1, 2, 3!!!!! This has been a great week. I found something I thought lost, discovered something in my son I prayed was there, and was humbled by something that I didn’t even realize was of any consequence to anyone.spiritual_gifts_1

Thus I leave you with this question: What are your gifts and how do you use them, see them, and/or acknowledge them as you travel through life every day? Every now and then, I get caught up in life and forget that I’m not in control. I love that God is so forgiving and kind that he shows me in so many ways that the gifts that He has given me are always there. I just have to listen, pay attention, and allow HIM to do what HE does better than anyone on earth can ever do.

Forever thankful and grateful for my many gifts,


Cubic Zirconia, Real or Fake…Diamond


I asked a friend while at a lunch why do men hold a Diamond in their hand and let it go for a Cubic Zirconia, he replied because sometimes they can’t tell the difference between the two! Wow! That answer blew my mind and ignited a curiosity in me about the two gems and their unique forms.  I did some deeper research on Diamonds verses Cubic Zirconia and found some interesting facts. This lead me to compare the simulation of Diamonds to woman of character and Cubic Zirconia to females with the lack of…Oooooooh spill the wine darlin, lets have a conversation, shall we?

After each fact about the two stones I will give my interpretation of the facts as they may relate to relationships.

Here are some facts about Diamonds versus Cubic Zirconia

1. The primary difference, Diamonds are naturally mined gems CZs are synthetically manufactured.
2. The largest supply of CZs are manufactured China, Diamonds can be found in some of the come unique places around the world.
3. The Wealthy  find it safer to wear CZs  than the real Diamond.
4. Diamonds lose value when purchased but are valuable alone!
5. Diamonds have meaning and power.
7. CZs are affordable, diamonds are expensive.
8. A gemologist needs special equipment to tell the two part! Ummmmmm
sounds like a job for the Omniscient Heavenly Father! He see’s the real deal and
deals in truth.
9.  It takes another Diamond to cut a Diamond! Amazing
10. Diamonds are formed in rough dark places cubics are made in a factory.

The price paid for a fake doesn’t alter its  value…

These are a few but very important facts about these two gems! Yet one is Fake and the other is Real.

Fact 1.  Diamonds are naturally made, CZs are synthetically manufactured. When choosing a mate it’s important that they possess character, integrity, morals, and good values, self confidence, spiritual convictions, and many other characteristics that make for good a person. This means the person has gone through some things in life and has applied lessons learned to build character worth living with forever, and being an example for others . That’s a true Diamond. One without character just mimics the character of another but has no depth and most likely never practice what they preach! CZ!!!!

Fact 2.  CZs are manufactureed in China! Hello can we say copies! Diamonds can be found  in unique places around the world. A person of character allows different facets of life their to create character and true moral depth. They recognize and embrace their true purpose and live in their truth. It’s sad to say but some people never develop any true character and will leave nothing impressionable in this life. A special friend once said to me, “some people will live and leave earth with a certificate of attendance.” Ha now ain’t that a word”. They showed up and never learned a thing! But once again they mimic the life of another! You never get to know the real person and most times they covet and maligne others to make themselves feel and appear important. Their validation comes from external means and their extrinsic values are based on things. How can one build with someone if they never know who you are. Lack of self worth and insecurity is a sad combination.

Fact 3. The Wealthy find it safer to wear CZs  than the real diamond; now here is where I have some food for thought. I’m not a big fan of social media but do you ever wonder why people tend to post a lot about their relationships or personal lives wearing the face of greatness; yet if you had the chance to see them behind closed doors the face of their union is ugly and cold! I say this to say when you have the real thing you don’t have to convince anyone or impress them because you are  secure within yourself. When you are confident you don’t have to convince anyone of anything.

Fact 4. Diamonds lose value when purchased but are valuable alone!
The good book says he that finds a wife finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22) also that a married woman’s interest is divided God /husband but unmarried she has time for the Lord . Let’s not interpret this to mean she looses her essence and value by any means . However let’s look at the fact she is valuable and validated alone. When married she is serving multiple purposes.

Fact 5. Diamonds have meaning and power and to possess them means you must have experience and wisdom, knowledge and understanding which gives you power! It’s meaningless to know something and yet you don’t put it into practice or even have the know how to carry it out. In your union with the right person you walk in understanding of each other with the power to sustain a healthy relationship. Diamonds have been put through the fire! The hotter the fire the more their brilliance is undeniable .

How then does one settle for something Fake? It’s also important to remember that a real Diamond can have inclusions or imperfections, their true essence is they are a Diamond! Your mate isn’t perfect but your  love should be! Perfect love casts out fear. There is no fear in love! Love must be unconditional, sacrificial, patience, endurable, otherwise it’s not love.  Now that’s powerful!

Fact 6. CZs carry more weight equivalent to the size of a Diamond, (sounds more like baggage). Now this may have an ambiguous connotation to it . On one hand the ability of a diamond to shine or a person to possess character and strength is contingent upon their ability to withstand pressure and still stand strong. It’s another when they break under pressure, ahhhhhh Fake Diamond! CZ-bad unions break up under pressure. In order to shine you have to be willing to have staying power through the good and the bad times. It’s work y’all! But it’s impossible if it ain’t the right fit!!!!  Another out look …We all have issues and imperfections but when they become too weighted it’s extra baggage. It’s soooooooo critical not to bring extra baggage into a new relationship and occasionally the more mature ones need periodic cleaning. Do not ever allow your past baggage to interfere with your present. Clean up!

Fact 7. CZs are affordable, Diamonds are expensive. Sometimes in life people desire the real things but do not want to pay for the value! At times they either rise to the occasion and save to afford the real deal, get in debt to own it or wait for a sale. One may desire a real Diamond but because they cannot afford it they settle for what appears to be real when deep down they know it’s not.images

When you find a mate worth having you will do your due diligence to put in the work; it takes time to not only capture that person but you will be consistent in your love and actions inorder to maintain it. Whatever you did to afford that person you must be willing to continue the behavior. One should never have to adjust themselves for acceptance but adjust to coexist . You should be celebrated not tolerated. If it’s worth fighting for then don’t give up! No one said it will be easy but if it’s worth it, it takes two to fight for it. One man’s trash is another’s treasure. Mates should never take each other’s value for granted and should continue to work to afford their most precious investment …Each other!

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Love Is…

IMG_3907I asked some of my friends on Face Book to describe what love means to them.  I am always  amazed how descriptive some people are and others find the fullest of what they feel in just one word.  I am a women so this conversation will be from a women’s point of view, you thought otherwise…hmmm.

By all means, have a seat.  So how are you doing.  It’s been quite some time since we last spoke.  You look a little perplexed.  What’s on your mind?  Is there something that you would like to say?  Please,  speak up, I can’t hear you, “I LOVE YOU”.  Did you hear that?  Yes, why are you yelling?  You said that you didn’t hear me.  I lied, I heard you, but in the moment didn’t believe what I was hearing and wanted you to repeat it.  We’ve  not been in each other’s company in over two weeks.  The last time we spoke you said I had issues and you couldn’t deal with them. I said, “Okay” and I moved on, now you’re back up and say you “love me”. Love is the emotion that inspires and motivates one to improve the quality of their loved one’s life...#bfly126 (Sammy).  Believe, it only takes a minute and your entire outlook can change.

Love is unconditional, Love is someone you can call your best friend. Love is someone you can be yourself around.  Love is someone you can spend the rest of your life with...Sharon Caliman.  Are you saying that you want us to spend the rest of our lives together?  I said, “I love you” and wherever that love takes us, that’s where we’ll be.  Now I am confused, is there nothing else you want like to say, yes, I’m hungry.  Would you like to go out for a bite to eat?  (“He has commitment issues”)  Love is a misunderstanding by many that it’s just a feeling. True love is more than a feeling, it’s a commitmentBaron Coker


For me, it’s obvious that you and I are not in the same place at the same time and that’s disappointing.  Things aren’t always what they appear to be. I am ready  to settle down and from your comments or lack there of, it makes me feel like you want things to continue as before.  The  only difference is you’ve actually said the words “I Love you”but your words have no substance or depth.  Thank you for  dinner, I enjoyed the meal. Before  we leave I want you to know, I love you too and I forgive you.  You forgive me, I tell you “I love you” and you forgive  me. I wish you all the best..Love is forgiveness even when you can’t be together…Angelia

Love is certain and secure.  It’s the ability to close your eyes and fall knowing the person you are with will catch you over and over again.  Love is a flame in a wild storm, it burns bright at times and smolders at others but as long as you fan it, it will never go outDaya

IMG_3908I am left with an empty feeling, loneliness resides in the abyss of my soul.  The heart you left behind covets the pain I feel.  Our love resembles a wind-blown torn shirt.  I need to release the pain.

Love Ya Always…Chris