I posted this conversation last April 17, 2017, and after posting my conversation, “Practice Self Love” yesterday, I thought it only fitting that I repost my convo on ‘Smart Love’. When you ask yourself the questions below and the answers are contrary to what you know about your beloved, yet and still you decide to continue with things as they are, introspection might be in order, ‘um jus sayin’.
SMART Love…I have often wondered, if two people take the time to ask themselves some specific questions about the person they are interested in building a relationship/future with, will the answers to the questions below make them think twice about pursuing something on a higher level with that individual. I would like to share an acronym that I created as a guide to help men and women discern if the person they are interacting with is truly someone they can spend the rest of their life with; I mean really stay together until one or the other ceases to exist.
Sensible, is the person reasonable, do they use good judgement when making decisions.
Marginalize, does he or she make you feel unimportant? Are your suggestions, ideas and views marginalized as being not valid or credible?
Amicable, is he or she confrontational or do they project a harmonious vibe?
Realistic, does he or she make decisions based on the way things are or the way they want things to be? Are the decisions realistic or impractical?
Trustworthy, would you trust this person with your life?
No, you are not looking for a business partner, but you are trying to get a sense of whether this person is someone that you can communicate with, someone that will be a good listener, someone that has your back (your ride or die), someone that has the same or similar values as you, someone that you are comfortable with. I could go on and on but I won’t. I am simply positioning you for a look ahead. No one is perfect but why not invest some time in understanding the theme of the “picture” while you admire the “frame”.