Living Love (life) In Reverse – PART 2

Looking Back

What’s Persevering you? 

As I looked back over the story of Lot and his wife there were so many lessons in that one passage that I had to share this conversation in two parts. The question “what’s preserving you” resonated with me as I began consider the events of that very moment when Lot’s wife looked back, consequently to Lot moving on! Stay with me I’m going deeper. The bible says how can two walk together if they cannot agree? (Amos 3:3).  Lot and his wife started off in the same direction, however it seems that trip came to an end. This influenced me to consider the fact that two people can start off in the same direction yet something aborts the rest of the trip. Two people come together, everything seems beautiful then boom something changes… Life happens! As Lot’s wife looked back I equated it to the emotional state of a woman not being able to let go of what was, how they got together all the memories good and bad. Meanwhile at the ranch, as she becomes stuck in her emotional and spiritual attachment to the relationship the man has moved on! News flash, men will! “Oh goodness we see where you are going with this”! Put your seat belts on ladies, you might feel a little turbulence on this ride.

Not to pass judgment as I’m one who despises judgmental behavior. Hopefully this discussion can provoke some self evaluation and healing. The big elephant in the room is living love in reverse,” what’s preserving you in love”? Has it been difficult for you to move on without the person that you began the journey with?  I know some people, places or things may be harder to shake than others. Because we are emotional creatures, it is so important for us to guard our hearts and find out if the person you are beginning your journey with is there for a season or long term. Lot and his wife began together but they didn’t finish together. We can relate this to, two individuals who have different goals in life. Being unequally yoked spiritually, mentally, physically, financially only leads to a seasonal union. If you are stuck in a memory rut of what once was, you must find the solution to moving forward. Especially when the other party has moved on and left you behind emotionally and physically.  If it’s the end of that chapter of your relationship pray first and foremost and allow God to help you move forward. “Apart from him we can do nothing”(John 15:5). One will never survive in a one sided union. Some relationships will write the entire chapters of your life and some a single page!

The bible says he that finds a wife finds a good thing and finds favor with the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). It also says that no good thing would God withhold from you (Psalms 84:11). If you are his good thing he will be there and if not he will leave! Never settle for being someone’s sometime, part time, anytime thing! Believe that you are a good thing and that God has a perfect match for you. He knows the paths that we all must take; therefore he also knows who will travel similar paths with you all the way and not take a detour from the journeyLet me say this, I don’t believe this makes the person bad just not the right fit for you. We are all God’s creations, he loves us all and there is someone for everyone. I’d like to believe that. You are someone’s good thing but you won’t get to experience the Beauty of this if you remain living in reverse with the wrong thing. Be your good thing until the perfect match maker brings two good things together. What he puts together NOTHING can tear it apart (Mark 10:9).

A Man cannot survive without his rib the part of him that brings God’s favor to his life. If you aren’t his good thing his divine match “po thang has no favor in that area, “oh my “. Every perfect and good comes from above (James 1:17). Desire your match to be made in heaven and not earthly created. If God didn’t put it together you can take this to the bank it won’t make it (Psalm 127:1, Matthew 7:26).  All your independent efforts will fail, at some point. What he builds and purposes he provides for.  “Girl sometimes it’s so hard when you have loved and loved hard! Given your all and a man can just walk away and move on, leaving you with no explanation! Just heartbroken” I understand and I do not feel this is an easy move! But life as we know can force us to make some very important decisions. Especially when a relationship is only for a season; we talked about this before.” Girl I might have to find someone else to help me get over this one “I say let that someone else be you and God.

You don’t  need another seasonal anything ,depending on your age, (chuckles)  if you are forty and over you should be weary of this practice by now ….. I’m just sayin!” Oooooo pick your face up off the floor”…let’s get it together ladies, word to the young if you are reading pay attention and learn so you won’t have to travel this road. Problem is when more maturely aged women don’t learn from their mishaps in order to teach the young! That’s sad! Don’t let that be you. Be an example for someone to learn from your bosom. (Titus 2:4). Those seasonal relationships have had their purpose, reason and season (no regrets don’t beat yourself up) we all fall but get up. Being able to recognize the difference between seasonal and longevity is the operating factor to making wise choices. Pray always don’t leave God out of anything because he cares (. Psalm 55:22) about everything we go through, He also understands (Hebrews 4:15) (” thank God for Jesus”).Your broken heart he will not despise (Psalm 51:17). If the relationship did not prove to be the best for you after giving your best then forgive and allow God to heal the pain of your broken heart and spirit and move forward. (Matthew 6:15).   Sometimes someone comes into your life as a lesson or a blessing or both! If you truly love someone set them free if you must. However if it returns, again pump the brakes child and test it out before you dive all in. Allow him to prove the reason for his return. Sometimes he may just return for a piece of you and not the entire person you are. You have to know your worth and not allow someone to continue to cause you to live love in reverse.

Give seasonal people, places and things a word, line or paragraph, maybe an entire chapter in your life; not the entire book! Seasonal things in all forms come as lessons. Learn from them to become an even better good thing and live on… Besides love one must have purpose together or it will fall part. Love sometimes has nothing to do with whether you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with someone.  It means at times you have loved! Celebrate that because you shared a beautiful thing, and were able to be love and share it, some persons don’t know how to love or be loved. I think that’s pretty sad and worse; if it’s true love it will never die but sometimes you have to learn to love free, especially when love doesn’t love you back or you share different path. If you love then love enough to love them free to be with their divine good thing so you can be a good thing to and with your own divine good thing. Forgive the hurt, forgive yourself choose you when someone isn’t and continue to do so even when someone does. Loving you means you can love another.

We know not what to pray for (Romans 8:26) so be careful what ya pray for (Philippians 4:6).  However be confident that God would never give you anything to destroy you. (Jeremiah 29:11,). Only the devil comes to destroy! (John 10:10). Consider this the next time you pray ask God to help you to pray according to his will and purpose concerning what you are praying about. Then pray for the one that matches you, your goals, purpose and destination perfectly. He is the manufacturer of all. If Toyota is the manufacture of Toyota it does not use Mercedes parts to cause it to function efficiently. God knows what parts (people, places and things) to put in your life to cause you to fulfill his purpose for your life, believe that. Stop praying just for a husband, anyone can take an isle walk and become a spouse. Consider asking for your soul mate, that ride or die love; your personal good thing! Live your love life in purpose not something that’s going in constant reverse or nowhere.  Some might say, “I notice you like to refer to the bible a lot, do you think it may come off to churchy”? Absolutely not! I’ve come to respect the great “I am” he is God and the beginning of wisdom (Proverbs 1:7). What I share and write about I chose to govern my life by the wisdom of the bible. It works for me. I can’t speak for anyone else. I was raised to take it to JESUS honey! If it doesn’t work for you then that’s a matter of choice and opinion. However, I will refer back to the bible again if you lack wisdom you must ask of God (James 1:5). He is the author and finisher of our faith (Hebrews 12:2) he created us so who better to know the purpose of a thing than the creator! Besides, this is for the one who can relate, who is ready to receive the messages. Everything does not reach everyone even when spoken. Some may have come to the point in their lives where they have done things their way and are weary of doing so. It is my opinion that God is the only ultimate answer to all things under the sun! If this isn’t where you are respectfully it’s your choice. Even God loves you to free will; yet he will always try to guide and protect you from ultimate eternal destruction.

Did I hear someone say, “I don’t even know if I need or want a man in my life child”. “Ooooooo shut your mouth and speak for yourself honey, Lies you tell ” !  HaHaHa…While you may tell yourself that to save face in front of your girlfriends, ladies that’s what females do sometime. It’s possibly a protective barrier! Let’s, keep it real. We are created needing each other, created for companionship even God created us for companionship (Genesis 1:27). However love is to be celebrated not tolerated. It is natural to desire someone to share your life and love with. You can set goals and achieve them, accumulate things but no one to share it with is an awful existence! So let’s stop the façade and be real only you and God know how you feel when you are alone and those lights go out.  While you need no one to validate you, love when shared makes life more enjoyable and fulfilling. It’s a beautiful existence when real. Try living on an island by yourself then see how fulfilling that life will be. “Drinks please”!  HaHaHa…

Is bitterness, not forgiving, anger, hurt, resentment, retaliation, old memories, living love in constant reverse preserving you? Are you allowing these things to write the story of your life? Please don’t this is self destructive, actually suicide. We all may have heard of people who have actually fallen for the lie that they cannot exist without another! And have literally ended their lives or that of the one they desired life with. Yet if you are living love in constant reverse you’re doing the same thing; killing your purpose, self and destiny. Life is too short and precious for that cabbage.  No one should have that kind of power in your life. The power is yours to give no one takes that from you. Oooooo Lawd this is deep I think I need a drink!! Hahaha make it a double. Thanks for the light! We have some self evaluations to do. It’s healing to the soul. Let’s face it old habits are hard to break but necessary for growth and progress. It’s hard I know but ask him for help he will help you( Psalm 91:15, Psalm 50:15, Isaiah 41:10, Psalm 32:8, Psalm 51:17, ). No matter what decisions you must make in this life don’t leave God out pray about all things even the secrets of your soul. Even when you can’t talk to your friends you can talk to him, he knows all, sees all and is powerful enough to see you through whatever you’re facing. We live in a world that’s changing drastically and is filled with many land mines … We must learn to trust the all Seeing Eye for the things we are ignorant about. He condemns not (John 3:17). If God has set you free from something ask him to help you to remain free and not look back. (John8:32, 36).

When and If something comes back your way give to it all to him and allow him to shed light on  the purpose of it and it’s return, even if it feels or taste  good. “Cake taste good and I love cake but it makes ya fat “! Some things that are good to you may not be good for you. If it’s good for you he will allow it in your life (Psalm 84:11), if not lets choose to trust his judgment so that you won’t live love in constant reverse.

Every man has two options… Either stand up and be the man she needs you to be… or sit the…down so she can see the man standing behind you! Author-unknown.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.

One of the happiest moments ever, is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change. Author-Unknown.

Wait on the LORD. Don’t rush into something that is not approved by him. What God has reserved for you is better. Remain Patient.  Positivity Inspires.

If people treated you like an option, leave them like a choice. Life Lessons 101 Don’t make someone important in your life, if you are just an option in theirs.  Author – Unknown.

It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. Alfred Tennyson

Single and on the market, your ticket says full price no discounts!

God has provided the funds for the one whom he deems worthy to purchase you at full price! Wait on him…Racquel Outten,

Until next time the conversation continues in 3 parts!

Love thyself first, be patient true love is worth waiting for. Don’t rush it.

Pray always about all things and choose to trust God’s timing and will. Nothing happens before its time or season. Grace, peace, mercy and God’s wisdom and favor are yours.


Copy write: written by Racquel 4/12/15

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