Recently I read the Book of Ruth and all I can say is WOW!!!! If you’ve not read it or haven’t read it in a while, pick up your Bible and read it. To say this was an awesome woman of God is an understatement. Ruth displayed such selflessness and humility and grace when faced with tough decisions. She elected not to take the easy way out of her situation but to honor a commitment she made to her “new family” – her husband’s family!
Can you say that you would have made the same choice? For me, that’s a tough one. I loved my mother-in-law dearly and would have done anything in the world for her. But to leave my family and follow her even after my husband had died? I’m not so sure I could have made that decision. Sure it would have been easy if my mother was deceased. But to turn away from my birth family to take up the family of my dead husband and not return to my own mother; well I’ll never know but I’d like to think that in my maturity, I would have at least given it strong consideration.
Ruth definitely sets the bar high for the rest of us. Even after she goes with her mother-in-law, she goes even further and follows the directive of her mother-in-law who tells her how and where to find her next husband. As modern women, we think it beneath us to submit to someone else or to hand over control of our lives to another human! Many won’t even turn over control to God.
All year, I’ve been on this journey to become “An Excellent Wife”. The path has taken me down many roads, some of which have been bumpy and others bitter sweet. The biggest change that I honestly thought would N-E-V-E-R come about is regarding submission. For me, submission is no longer a “dirty word” or a word that conjures up fear and despair in my spirit. For a couple of reasons, I have come to appreciate submission and EMBRACE it every day. Before I tell you why, I need to tell you that it continues to be a struggle but I’m remaining steadfast.
Back to submission, I have learned that submission actually is quite freeing. By submitting to my husband, I am no longer to blame when things don’t turn out right. He’s the King, the head! He says do it this way, and it is done that way. If it doesn’t work he can only blame himself. Now I’m “fixing to” get deep so pay attention. Being submissive is a very POWERFUL position to be in.
When we submit to our husbands, they come to know that we got their backs 100%. And ladies, your husbands will do whatever it takes to make sure that you are happy so you continue to have their backs 100%. But it’s more than that. When a man knows that he can “be the man” without the snappy tongue lashings, sideways looks, and cold shoulders, he will move heaven and earth to make sure that peace and joy remains in his home. I’m sure you know the saying, when the wife is happy everybody is happy! Get it?
Additionally and most importantly, submitting to God’s WILL provides you with such peace. Giving all over to God takes away the worry and stress of how this, why that, and when will the other. Knowing that God’s got you, you can be free to live life to glorify HIM with the confidence of knowing that no matter what comes, God will work it out.
When you think about it, why sweat it anyway! The moment we all were conceived in our mother’s womb, God had already determined our destiny. We spend the early years of our life and many of the latter ones getting in God’s way. If only we’d learned to submit early on, think of the freedom, peace, and joy we could have experienced. I’m so thankful after years of fooling myself and thinking that I was in control I’m learning to Let Go and Let God…Join me! It’s pretty neat over here.